On the show this week we reminisce of our recent BBQ pilgrimage to Luling, TX, share the joys and concerns of being introverts and look at practical wisdom and resources for how to deal with this in a healthy way, especially in roles of pastoral ministry that demand so much interaction with people.
BBQ Pilgrimage to Luling, Tx to City Market
Texas Monthly on BBQ: http://www.tmbbq.com
Texas Monthly Articles on BBQ: http://www.texasmonthly.com/search-results/bbq
Texas Monthly Top 50 BBQ Places in the World: http://www.texasmonthly.com/lists/50-best-bbq-joints-world
Texas Monthly Article on City Market: http://www.texasmonthly.com/story/luling-city-market
Link to City Market BBQ place: http://www.lulingcitymarket.com
BBQ and long neck Big Red
In a culture that prizes extroversion, introversion is something that is, in my experience, greatly misunderstood. Most people think of introversion/extroversion as whether you like people or not and whether you like being around people. In other words, are you outgoing or not. This is not entirely true. Introversion/extroversion is more often defined based on how you get energy. Do you get energy from being out and about around people, large groups of people, and even people you don’t know. If so, you would be considered more of an introvert.
If you tend to get energy by having breaks, downtime, time away from people, or with small groups of people that you know well, or one-on-one, then you would be considered more introverted.
Know this about yourself and those around you is very important because it is crucial to know how you get energy. This life is going to take a lot out of you and you need to exist in the places that feed you most of the time, or you will not be able to continue on in that way. It’s that simple – you need energy.
What Our Society Values
We value extroverts – friendly, outgoing smiles from people who are glad to interact with many different people. Personality, interaction, popularity, connection, image. These are all things that we value as a society, and these favor the extroverts. However, this wasn’t always the case. At the start of America, our society valued reflection, contemplation, introspection, and character. These traits are more associated with introversion.
Knowing Yourself and Those Around You
The more we know ourselves the better we can care for ourselves. The more we know those around us the better we can care for them. Taking the time to mindful of these things and grow and develop in these understandings allows us to give and receive better care and live more fully into who we’re called to be!
Resources on Introversion:
- Susan Cain website: http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com
- Susan Cain Ted Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts
- Whiteboard Video on Introversion
– Episode 1 – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=74kBqeq__OQ
- Episode 2 – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8GSljNVYEM
- Episode 3 – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNWNZU9t_rY
- Guide To Interacting With An Introvert: http://www.fastcocreate.com/1683402/your-guide-to-interacting-with-an-introvert#8
- Things You Should Stop Saying To Introverts: http://thoughtcatalog.com/madison-moore/2013/04/11-things-you-should-stop-saying-to-introverts/
- Article on Susan Cain’s book Quiet: http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanadams/2013/05/07/six-ways-introverts-can-be-more-powerful/
- World’s Most Famous Introverts: http://www.forbes.com/pictures/mkl45kmji/albert-einstein-2/
- Brain Differences Between Introverts and Extroverts: http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/crux/2013/08/27/are-the-brains-of-introverts-and-extroverts-actually-different/#.VFq42oeRLtg
- The Introvert Advantage Book: http://www.amazon.com/The-Introvert-Advantage-Thrive-Extrovert/dp/0761123695
- Quiet: The Power of Introverts in A World That Can’t Stop Talking: http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/about-the-book/
Link to free and quick Myers-Briggs test: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp
Beard referenced camping. Here is a link just for fun: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZdqIpYhM6PE